Is it Fear or Love?
According to a study conducted by Cornell University, the average adult makes approximately 35,000 “remotely conscious” choices per day.
(Fun fact, about 227 of those decisions pertain to food.)
Obviously, this number is not reflective of only major, conscious decisions - but also includes mini-subconscious choices.
From mindless autopilot to hyperfocused intention - we often spend the most time deliberating on small, everyday decisions.
The driving factor behind the decisions we make - ultimately leading to the actions we take - is either fear or love.
I don’t know about you but when fear is guiding my decisions, I almost always find myself with regret, resentment, or some sort of harm as the end result.
Fear-based decision-making is contingent upon the worries of a possible future outcome (that will most likely never come to fruition), while focusing on love sets our intentions on our deepest desired outcome.
Fear-based thoughts are grounded in assumptions, judgments, and expectations. When fear is the focus, it always results in settling for an outcome we really don’t want.
When love is the source, our intuition is driving our decisions from a place of vulnerability, intention, and awareness.
Choosing between love and fear requires me to take a step back, away from comfortability, and into a place of radical acceptance.
The illusion that I have control, over anything, is one that pushes me back into a place of fear and the cycle continues.
Kids embrace everything life throws at them, pushing the seemingly insurmountable limits, and relish in infinite possibilities. Somewhere along the way, life experience teaches fear, with guards and limitations. We believe that fear will protect us, but it actually blocks us from opportunities to grow and evolve.
Choosing love means choosing the path of possibility rather than restriction; the option that opens us up to experiencing the fullness of life.
Marianne Williamson says that our natural disposition is to be governed by love: “Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.”
This is all a process. As you walk into this gorgeous Monday morning, I challenge you to break free from the perils of fear-based decision-making and choose love. Open yourself up to the possibility that everything may work out exactly as you want it to. Maybe the Universe has been conspiring in your favor all along.
Have a great week!